It's wonderful to have someone that can hear all of that stuff, but we don't always get someone like that even if we are married. I feel much the same as you, though I wouldn't use the word psychosis myself.

I found when I learned to dress female enough and tidily enough, people started accepting me as a standard unit, and lesbians stopped hitting on me. I mean seriously people just react to your clothes and superficials like that. The fact I have no makeup, purse or fancy hairdo or clothes, well, it doesn't matter because I am inside some arbitrary line. Little kids look at me hopefully thinking I'm a grandma I suppose, but I don't respond to them with that typical cooing manner they expect. I have no kids. That's who I am. I'm not really a people oriented person most of the time. And that's okay. I guess what I'm saying is there's a minimal amount of facade required for me. Then again, I avoid settings where more would be expected, I suppose. I picked a career where high-polish femininity was not required. I would be miserable attempting it, not that I ever have.

Maybe some sort of art or writing would be an outlet for the weirdness? As an artist you have a lot of freedom.