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Old Apr 20, 2013, 12:30 AM
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Originally Posted by standongrace View Post
Have you ever been in a position of recognizing a disorder in a friend and feeling compelled to tell them about it before he/she ruined their life because of it? How did you go about telling them gracefully and with love?
No, but I have been on the receiving end of it and NOTHING had ever helped until I realized what situation I put myself in myself. Lots of friends tried to help. Nothing happened.

It may be part of my particular disorder:

Self-defeating personality disorder is:

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rejects or renders ineffective the attempts of others to help him or her
Self-defeating personality disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

So I do not know how effective you would be with a friend who has a different disorder. But with mine, many many attempts of many caring, benevolent people over many years yielded absolutely no practical value, until I was able to help myself. Just nothing. All the attempts were futile.
Hugs from:
shezbut