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Apr 20, 2013, 11:47 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Originally Posted by ready2makenice
Asiablue: ...
Syra:Its weird my T never went over boundaries with me,even though I clearly remember asking and then one day,swoosh,took everything away. T was trying to put what she was saying in a way that I wouldn't take it "personal" like are you kidding meee?
I always kept T at a distance and just when I was starting to completely trust T,she hit me with this.Now I don't feel safe anymore,I'm trying to figure out if this (is this a rupture?) can be fixed or not. Usually when someone hurts me,I runaway and cut them off never to speak again and if I do its years later
Thank You everyone for all the support and advice so far!!!  |
Mine never went over boundaries with me either. In fact, she talked about lower boundaries compared to others. She talked of going to movies iwth clients. She brought me the first present (a very small, token thing). I resisted at first. But it seemed the message was that it was a good idea for therapy..... And then things changed. She started building up barriers. Some of it wasn't just for me. But then I think she used that as an excuse with me for things she didn't do with others and wasn't honest (maybe even with herself). I think we could have worked it out. And I could have learned good things. But she would have had to admit things I not sure she's even aware of.
I totally get your reaction ARE YOU KIDDING ME?     
Trying to work things out is good. Sometimes it works. I tried working things out. Sometimes I kick myself for not paying attention to the red flags and leaving earlier and more gracefully. Sometimes I wonder if knowing that I tried has hard as I could makes it easier to know I didn't walk away too early. Problem is, it was much more painful that way. It's a hard choice.
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