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Apr 20, 2013, 01:01 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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Originally Posted by Antimatter
She is responsible for her own feelings of inadequacy, not you. I wonder why she told you this? If you are more independent, will it help her feel more successful??
Ask her exactly what it is that she expects of you, you don't have to guess.
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Antimatter, I think therapists sometimes say things like this (not always very eloquently) not because they take things like 'dependence' personally, feel personally challenged by it, etc., but as a way to help the client see their patterns and help them to resolve them. From a certain point of view, it may sound like she's saying the 'dependence' if that's the word she used, is affecting her (the therapist), but I think therapists can very much take care of themselves and it's not about them, they're saying this for the client's benefit (now whether it ends up being beneficial or not is something else entirely).
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