Also, not trying to belittle or badger you or anything, but I don't know why people get touchy or after the fact feel sorry things. For some people things like this may be touchy subjects, but ya know, it has already happened, it is in the past, I really do think that it is bad to force things down like this and like a black rose, you cannot change why happened or how it happened, I am not saying that you should tell everyone and there brother, but if someone asks. Tell how it happened. Every family has deep dark secrets. I just do not think it is good to hide it away as if everything will fall apart if people know, if you will not tell them, then they will sneak around and try to find out. Just tell them so they know and solve them sneaking around and stuff. I dunno my weird opinion