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Originally Posted by Maus5321
Just my opinion, but from reading what you have written, I think by the way your father acts, he is insecure of himself and is trying to bring the people around him down to his level. He might feel threatened by your creativeness and thinking capabilities, so he is latching on and focusing in on your weaknesses. He just seems to me to be self centered and selfish, trying to get the world to revolve around him. Your house is a galaxy and it floats around the center(Your father). Sound like he only knows one model of behavior and learning and if you do not match it you are wrong. I hope for your sake that your father will start to open and learn to adapt that not everyone learns or can be molded the same.
It sounds like it will be hard, but you just have to focus in on your strength's and move forward. I to have some of the same issues with my father, not to the same extent. But I have told him of my diagnosis which I received only a couple months ago, but he said well good I am glad you are getting help. Sometimes I do things and I realize why now, I try to explain to him why I do them at the moment but he always ask's me why and I have no real way to answer why. It is my brain make up lol. I have brought my father into one of my appointments so my psychiatrist could talk to him and give him kinda a general overview. My father is kind of a bottom line facts based guy, but if the facts you present are about something he does not understand, or cannot understand. He doesn't open to accept it. He still wants me to be like him, but me and him do have distinctly different personalities. I think my personality and my fathers actually conflict, he is always on the go out doing stuff. I am finer just hanging in my house doing things, I do not always have to be out doing something. But that is his routine, never can be home, gotta be out with friends etc. But me I am fine with myself and my own thoughts. Don't get me wrong I like hanging out with my friends, but I don't have to do it everyday. Sorry for the ramble. It is my specialty. Hopefully one or two things out of this are helpful lol  |
How can he be threatened by me? I have read about that before on pages about gifted kids and how people around them, adults specially, may resent them. I am also like you, I am introverted and I prefer to be at home. I have a small group of friends, like 6 people, and they are more or less like me, but more so two of them, whith whom I share all my secrets (my fetish for stuffed animals for example, oops, not a secret anymore!
). Those two also have dads who dont understand them and are a distant emotionally. Out moms are more in-touch with us. I am not sexist, I dont believe women are always like that, (hey, thanks to that, we are more emotional even though we are guys). Yes, my dad tries to mold things for his commodity often, and my mom has described him to me as a "comodino" (spanish word for someone like my dad).
You arent rambling, and you know, its good if you do. People need to speak about their feelings, and dont supress their emotions. Macho-thinking is backwards, and in fact, saying how you feel commuciates emotions to people, and people will go to listen and offer help, enhancing your chances of survival. Tears also express a need for help, and it is necessary to show them to attract social support. They also release stress hormones. Of course this a simplistic way of seeing things, and I am sure there are mor variables there.
Sometimes, when I am alone at my car or with the other two friends who are like me a lot, I yell, or repeat phrases a lot. One of them does it too, and he has his own version of yelling, which is laughing like a villain. He told me it all serves to vent out emotions, which makes sense. I think it is similar to tourette's syndrome, but I am not sure if we have it or not. I also have mild dyslexia, and so does he. he has the same interests as me, with just one or two things not in common (he likes zombies a lot, I am not that fascinated but I like them still. I like hello kitty, but he is indifferent towards it). I find it fascinating that the three of us are studying psychology related subjects. With me is Clinical Psychology, the other one that also yells is studying communication disorders, and the last one is studying forensic psychology.
Sorry for rambling myself... tee hee.
I have another question, is it possible to have many disorders at the same time and still function intellectually/academically? because apparantly I can.