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Apr 20, 2013, 05:42 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Originally Posted by ready2makenice
Syra: Wow!!I'm sorry this all happened to you....yes I feel like T might have her own issues like she feels some transference towards me...mind you this is just a guesstamation,of why all this went down all of a sudden. I understand you completely,I would at least like to see if I can get past this milestone and know what T is thinking,if not then its on with my life. Did T ended badly with her?how did it end?
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Very very very badly. Some details I don't even talk about. After working and working for weeks and weeks, one day, out of the blue, she said she wanted a break, AFTER we had talked about me continuing and she invited to talk about it. No reason why she needed a break (although obviously our difficulties were significant). No time frame. She did try to reconnect weeks later, but on her terms, and eventually she wrote me a Dear John letter. almost a year later.
She wouldn't describe it that way. I believe she truly wanted to resolve things. I think it surprised her that she was going to take a break - I don't think it was planned. I imagine she feels horrible about what happened but the fact that she wishes things were different (her words), doesn't change the fact that because of her lack of ethical and professional behavior I was hurt badly and she hasn't owned it.
I'm learning some surprising lessons, and I'm glad for that.
I don't know if I would do it again or not. I might - not because of the experience, but because of a lot of other things I wouldn't now have in my life if I hadn't met her.
I've been able to figure out what I think T was thinking. I have no way to know if it's true, in part or whole, & if in parts, which parts. But it makes it make sense to me and that makes it easier to move on. I doubt she will ever tell me. I don't know if she knows. Maybe. You never know what might happen.
I've been able to move on. Examine myself and learn. I don't know how I would feel if I was in a different time in my life.
Last edited by Syra; Apr 20, 2013 at 06:09 PM.
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