Hello ~ You don't say how old you are, but if you're over 18, how about just moving out? That would certainly solve a lot of problems. Perhaps you could find some friends who would like to share an apartment with you. That would make it easier, financially.

Your grandmother may not have dementia, but she certainly isn't normal. She DOES have some mental issues that should be evaluated. I'm wondering if perhaps she should be 'looked over' by her doctor! Do you think she would go and tell her doctor these things? I have a feeling that either you or your mother should go with her to the doctor and explain these issues to him. She may be insulted, but this is for her own good -- it sounds like her mind is being tortured and she can't possibly be very "happy" mentally!

Take her to her doctor and have her evaluated. Let HIM decide what needs to be done, and I hope he'll refer her to a therapist. She really needs some help.

I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee