I really do not want to be rude here but really, why exactly do you think that someone that was in love with you, who you now have rejected, would want to revert to the same old role when everything he wanted in his heart came to be, albeit for a moment? You have to understand that in his mind you have completely ripped his heart out. Maybe this is a little too close to home for me to respond to but at least I can tell you how he feels. He also feels, I believe, that you used him emotionally and that is all you want from him. When you love someone in a situation like this it hurts more than you can really bear sometimes. I mean if you had dated other people during your friendship while he stood by you through it all, that had to have taken its toll on him to begin with, but to have been accepted and then rejected has broken the camels back so to speak. Again I do not wish to seem harsh I really do not but as I am in a similar situation (his side of it) I know the feeling.