A little while ago Kali came into my life and resided there for awhile. There are many lessons she teaches, not just destruction, though of course that varies by personal opinion and tradition. In my experience she is a goddess of transformation, or at least that's how she manifested herself to me. Hang in there. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"... I am a firm believer in that. And also that the world needs kind, sensitive people. It's just unfortunate that most of us end up crossing paths with a jerk or two along the way...but they, too, make us stronger.