I'm a black sheep of the community and it hurts. So maybe thank god that I'm not so judgmental as they are. I think we need family and community, and it feels so horrible to be the ones left out, the ones talked about and judged. If they'd give us a chance they'd see what gifts we bring to the relationship. But we can't make them open up to get to really know and accept us - so wisdom you already have to see something you cannot change. Then we just pray for serenity to come to peace with it. Acceptance yes this is who they are going to be. I'm so sorry you don't have their support and understanding with what a difficult time you're going through. I'm here, will be part of your surrogate family and support you in these hard decisions and nightmare youve been going through lately. Going to force my big beautiful butt out of bed and drink a pot of coffee in your honor. You're my hero amazing mom of 8, your a wonderful friend too