And am sorry that your self-worth is non-existent. I will say something now that may just annoy you greatly, but we cannot, ever, change how people are with us and how the treat us. How cruel people are can take my breath away. Your wife doing those things to you were just awful, that I can not stress enough, and you really have gone through a tough time. I presume there would've been nothing really that you could've done to change her actions, but you can change how you react to it. How we deal with stuff is all we have - and before you dump on me, I am talking from experience too.