To whom it may concern....I need help!!! I dont know what to do. I feel so conflicted I am beginning to feel depressed. The situation is this. I am 34 years old and my boyfriend of 6 years is 42. In the beginning our sex life was okay....we would actually have it but most of the time it was initiated by me. I moved in with him maybe 3 years into our relationship and every year it has been progressively gotten worse. We go through dry spells where I can honestly say I don't remember the last time we were intimate. We are actually going through a dry spell now, but I am just fet up with it that it is really causing me to think of where this relationship is going. I am so unhappy with what is going on that I don't have any desire to keep initiating things myself. He is not affectionate at all, we never kiss just because, we never hug and when he does hug me he pats my back like Im a friend. We don't have conversation anymore. We sit in silence if we are both watching TV or just relaxing. I feel so emotionally disconnected from my boyfriend. I don't feel satified anymore and I feel like the sexual part of our relationship is not important to him but it is very important to me. I know he is not cheating and we have talked about our problems but we never come up with a resolution. He says he will work on it but never does. He is okay with the way our relationship is and I am NOT!! My confidence in myself is down the tubes. It has gotten to the point that I feel like I am just living with a friend. I feel like this time he has pushed me past the point of no return. I still care about him, he is great with my kids and he is an great guy, but I don't want another friend, I want a partner who is there for me emotionally, physically, and sexually and I am just not recieving that. Im tired of fighting the fight alone, I know if I leave it will break his heart but if stay I wont be happy and I have two kids to worry about (he is not the father). If things are like this now, how will it be another 6 years from now? I need advice....I dont know what to do.