wvcountrygirl ~ You have the patience of a saint. And he knows it.
I always think women should have each others back, not each others husbands. They are both bums. I'm sorry you have this going on.
" My husband told me we would have more problems if I told him about what happened....."
Really? How convenient for him to silence you!
"I can't get over what my husband did to me, I feel like he is choosing her friendship over his wife/family"...
You said it, I am hoping seeing it in print helps make it really, really clear. He has broken a trust with you. It's broken. You say, "he apologized...he is trying to make this marriage work..." Um, no. He isn't. He wants you to think that though. If he was going to let her go, she'd be gone.
Hammy is right. Get an attorney. No more listening to his sorry line. You are clearly a lovely woman and he blew it. I'm very sorry for your pain.