Hi "Confused" ~ I'm sorry it's taken so long to get a reply.

It sounds to me like either you, or maybe both of you are being taken for granted. Sometimes after having lived together for awhile, it happens unfortunately. You get too comfortable.

Do you think he would agree to couples counseling? That would be the ideal thing, as the counselor could help you two learn how to communicate, and how to let the other one know your needs. It can be uncomfortable at times to let your needs be known, but once you learn HOW to do it, it becomes 2nd nature. Plus you need to be open and honest with each other and I'm not sure you two are doing that.

I do hope he will agree to counseling -- from what you say, he sounds like a reasonable guy. But leaving things the way they are will just be a death sentence to your relationship. There's just plain no future in it, and I'm sure you'll end up moving out. So please urge him to go. I pray this works. From everything you say, it sounds like you two really love each other, but have gotten REALLY lax in showing it.

Best of luck, and God bless! Please take care of yourself! Hugs, Lee