I call my "host" the "gatekeeper" (that's me!) and I came out after a lengthy stay at a specialized hospital, although I had been out and active before as the primary caregiver for people around me, including my (outside) children and family.

I think this happens a lot and over time, after learning your system, you will maybe feel more comfortable with this.

My original person has been asleep since she was very young and our jobs are to keep her asleep and safe so she does not have to remember any bad stuff. It makes complete sense to me but I do understand that I will someday have to work toward more healing.