Hi Boncha. You said you fight a lot, but you never said why you fight. What do you fight about? Also, you said that you don't have friends and that every time you try to form friendships, they blow up in your face "...they find some way to screw me over emotionally."

If you are attracting people like that in your life, then you need to look within to see why you keep picking people like those that screw you over. The common denominator is you. Also, if you can't make friends, and you say you are lonely, my assumption is that you've always used your husband as your primary source of entertainment - which is bad for any relationship.

Here's what I'm thinking, and please correct me if I'm wrong, you must get a life of your own. You must get a social life - one that doesn't involve your husband. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Also, a socially active woman who is engaged in life is an attractive more desireable partner. I'm not saying you are the reason things are going badly in the marriage, but it really does take two. You can't change him, but you can change you. I think not having friends and being lonely, makes a person needy, which puts a strain on marriage.

Also, what do you do for a living? What does he do? What does he like to do when he's not working? What do you like to do when you're not working? What are your hobbies? Start figuring these things out for yourself and start focusing on you and not your relationship with your husband just yet.

You've got to have a self before you can have a relationship. It sounds like you don't have a sense of self yet.