hi Maroda09
I'm sure he is extra-ordinary: he must be, to counterbalance his avoiding behavior.
This relationship is a roller coaster.
Your post means that you don't like roller coasters.
You cannot change him, you know that, don't you?

Hamster-bamster said that SHE modified her behaviors. You won't change him and he seems quite happy with his way of life.

I understand that after the 'downsì the 'ups' seem so precious and delicious. But you must know that another down is going to follow.

I guess you must chose: roller coaster with him, one day up, next day down or you better try to understand why you think so precious a man like this.