Thank you all for your replies. I know I can't change him, which is why I'm trying to determine the difference between more awareness on his part and personality traits that just aren't going to budge. I wouldn't want someone to want to change me, so I understand that part.

I also know these things are not intentional, if they were, I'd be able to make my decision easier. Leave him! haha But he's just self-centered and unaware of others sometimes....which unfortunately makes me worry its a personality trait.

I'm putting in way more in this relationship than I'm getting back...which should be a giant red flag. But there is something there, there is a connection, there is chemistry, there is intimacy, there are intelligent conversations, and heartwarming feelings. I'm stupidly hopeful things will work out, as they do sometimes with him but I'm also angry, hurt, and finally starting to doubt the direction this is heading. :-/

I wonder if it would be helpful if I clearly communicate my feelings and concerns to him and see what happens?