Hello there

Am so very sorry, I totally understand why you are so angry, I would be too. Seems that without the support of your girlfriend over the treatment of her son, then I think you'll be fighting a losing battle. She needs to understand that this man is an adult, and that he should be held accountable for his actions and behaviour. Her molly cuddling him isnt doing him any favours, and is just making matters worse. Surely if its making her sick too, that she knows this even if she won't admit it? What does she say to you when you speak to her about it?

Without her agreeing to set some rules down like being responsible for rent or being on the tennancy, or better still, asking him to move out, then I think it may be the time for you to start planning your own exit. If its affecting your health (and I understand why it does) then you need to start looking after yourself. Can you speak to the authorities and you can get your name on another list for somewhere else to live? Who told you that you have no say? Surely if your name is on the lease you have some sort of say legally. Is it worth going to get legal advice or look up some info with your terms and conditions? Please don't let this young man break you and try. He's not worth ending your life over..

Big hugs