Some ppl can stand up for themselves and some ppl can't.

It is never their fault when they are abused.

Yes, I am physically strong and I have stronger objection to abuse, but I never learned, either, that I had rights or what they were.

My primary abuser groomed me so thoroughly (google grooming; if you don't know what that means) that I never had any separation from her or from ppl like her, or from ppl for that matter.

We are all in different places in recovery.

We should be able to talk about where we are at without fear of being judged as weak or "not recovering" if we cannot stand up to our abusers.

In fact, the only reason I can even be angry at my abuser now is because she is gone now and can no longer hurt me.

Just my own humble opinion.

Yes, I feel passionate about abuse recovery, but I still have a lot of work to do on fighting back.

Thank you, original poster.

Carol