I actually thought I had replied to this thread, because I find it fascinating!

I haven't talked to my T about this, so I don't know if it was projective identification, but I suspect it was. Last week, I read a letter I wrote about him going on vacation. At the time, I was unaware that I was expressing anger in the letter, I mean oblivious. My T recommended that I keep writing, even if it was going to be critical of him (it happened somehow like this, I'm not sure). Anyway, I reacted saying, "You think I am trying to be mean? or You think I am angry?" At the next session he said that he didn't feel the feelings behind the comment, that the comment had just come up out of the blue.

I think I projected my persecutorial part into him, through my subconsciously expressed anger, and that he responded. I was able to try to combat this part of me while it was on the outside, and it sent me in panic. I don't know if I explained this correctly, or if it even is an example, but I think it might be.

I completely believe in this. I read the book, Social Intelligence, and while it doesn't talk about projective identification, it does talk about how we are all more interrelated than we know, as far as nonverbal/subconscious communication goes. Thanks for the post! The article was a lot of help!