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Originally Posted by Got Java
it's hard to put up with being blamed for being lazy and not taking the iniative to comstantly attend to my sons needs immediately. I cant say I not on the ball with taking care of my son , but I constantly have my moments when I dont do as asked by my wife.
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Many fathers who are not depressed habitually find it hard to constantly attend to their babies' needs immediately. Does she realize that?
How old is the son?
What do you mean "don't do as asked by my wife"?
Why does she direct you in your taking care of your son on a regular basis?
("regular basis" because you said "constantly")
At any rate, the way you describe it, she behaves as if she were your manager and you treat yourself as if you were an unruly employee, with his moodiness and lack of deference towards the manager. Why is that? That alone is not due to your depression - it is more like a roles and responsibilities issue and as such it is best handled in professional couples therapy rather than in your personal therapy.
To the best of my knowledge, even people who pay money to their babysitters treat said babysitters better - at least, with minimal respect.