Rose ~ Gosh. I have one of these brothers. We both totally got ripped off! I am always so amazed when people have good brother stories! I wanted to have one of those...
So sad. He has caused so much pain. I haven't seen him & never want to again. The last time I did he tried to run me over with his truck, said he wanted to get me out of the way. Said he was summoning an army of demons to do battle. I think he did. He tried to kill my mother. Very long, bad story I won't bore you with. Very scary dude.
And the scariest part is he hung out at our Church! Everyone believes he is this wise, homeless, kindhearted guy who had a mean family. I tried to talk to the priest but he wouldn't help me. (I am a tiny, soft spoken lady, non threatening) When I took him to court for Elder Abuse, the Judge recused himself because he knew my brother from church! My mom & I nearly fainted in court. It was awful.

She is finally at peace, went to heaven last year. Just know that there are some of us who actually do understand. I'm so sorry you have this going on.

I finally figured out that when we were kids, mental illness was just not talked about. Ever. And my brother needed help, but my parents couldn't face that.
So they sent him to boys scout camps & summer camps and anything they could to keep him busy & "out of trouble." (I was the good one so I got no fun camps out of this deal.) Oh well.
But no one helped him. Didn't know they could. It was the times I guess.

If my family stayed silent, I can only imagine the millions of others who suffer in silence still. I wish I had been able to unmask the bad, as it was happening.

Hindsight is only hindsight now. Times are different. Look at all the info Shez had! Awesome...

In the meantime, he stole our parents estate, all of it, badmouthed me to all the relatives to cover his tracks and I am on my own. I only know what I know. I don't have the strength to do anything but try to find some peace.

I hope you are getting help & support for being a caregiver. That concerns me a lot. Don't hesitate to try to find help/support in your area. I can only send good thoughts & prayers in your direction.