Since I'm a great one for overstepping boundaries with my t and vice versa, today when I brought up the topic of our rupture two years ago, I told him I felt a) that I would never know the truth and b) that he felt I couldn't handle the truth. And even as the words were coming out of my mouth, I told him I reAlized those statements were more directed towards my mother than to him. So the relationship with t is important in that it helped me see how I directly applied the principle of the r/s with my mother, ie the transference. Then i did more whining but he said it was good - I showed anger that i didn't show before, and I didn't overeat afterwards.