Thanks everyone You have definitely given me a new perspective, I guess because I "hid" having any kind of issues, including my mental illness from everyone for years I have this feeling that I have to be open with everyone, but you're right it's a personal thing and it doesn't define me/us The only awkward moment is when people ask what I do for a living, as it's typically one of the first questions people ask, it's hard to just say "oh I don't work" and not give a reason.. any advice there? :/

We do have a fair few different interests between us, I'll definitely try out the website and look online for local couples events, people are quite clique-ish in general round Oxford but if I can find events that are based around meetings other people it may be the way to go Thankyou guys, I am feeling more positive about approaching this now