Ex-t was good at modeling tolerance and boundaries, I don't think he ever needed to forgive me for anything. He was also good at modeling flexibility and a willingness to change - he would try anything that I came in with, including handing him index cards on which I wrote the things I wanted him to say in a specific conversation. Initiative, not so much, but that wasn't important to me.

He wasn't so good at modeling honesty or non-defensiveness.

Current t is good at modeling everything I need her to model for me, I haven't found a weakness yet.