OMG...

He should not be TRYING to stare at you.

He should be STARING at you.

STARING at you should not feel like WORK to him. In order to TRY to do something, that something should be like WORK. If staring at you is like work to him, he is hopeless.

I have never heard anybody mention that her boyfriend was TRYING to stare at her.

I agree with Open Eyes that with your record go having bossy controlling men in your life prior to this treasure of a guy, you were uniquely unlucky to start a relationship with him, because... well. So just discard him - you are too young and too early into this particular relationship to feel that you might want to waste (spend...) some time and money on fixing the situation with HIM. It is much easier to move on - there are lots of men available.

Plus, as Lee pointed out, based on your writing that

"(He decided to "see how you feel about it" if he doesn't talk/provide "emotional" connection for 3 days). "

he appears to believe in retaliation. This is really bad and it is bad on a deep level - a few sessions in counseling would not remove that flaw from him.

If it is not retaliation, then it is some sort of very crude behavioristic approach to dating - he is trying to give you consequences.

He also abuses the psychobabble language by talking about emotional needs and all of that stuff.

Finally, he engages in baseless gender stereotyping that makes it appear that women have emotional needs and men have sexual needs, which is wrong. Finally, "emotional" and "sexual" are to some extent inextricable in RL.

All of those problems are his.

The only problem that appears to be yours and that you can try to fix is that you acquiesce in his gender stereotyping and even contribute some of your own. Hopefully, you will eventually move away from it, but you can move away from it on your own for your own benefit, without staying with the guy being discussed here.

You may also benefit from INDIVIDUAL counseling - since you have had a succession of controlling male figures and then you happened on this gem, you may have some issues that are fixable via individual therapy.