It is possible that for some people, violating (or trying to violate) rules is a good thing. There are any number of people, I imagine, who would be benefitted from breaking a rule and realizing the world did not end. The therapist was not destroyed and did not punish for doing so.

Also, everyone has their own path to get to where they want to be. I think I was taken a bit out of context above, my point was not that people are screwing up their lives and throwing away opportunities - sometimes a choice means a missed opportunity, because my point was that people make choices and, I believe most of the time, people are making the choices they can at any given point in time. Sometimes people have to do what they are going to do for awhile even if to the rest of the world it seems not the best thing. There are consequences to those choices, but the consequences are not necessarily going to make a person change, nor should they alone, in my opinion, be the sole deciding factor. Sometimes it is a weighing thing. If I do X to get Y then Z will also happen. Is Y more important to me than Z matters? If I email the therapist twice instead of once, the therapist might say they cannot work with me. Is it more important to me to email twice or to placate the therapist to keep that one and not have to find a new one?