My T is letting me email him over his month long vacation. Since seeing this T, I have respected his boundaries. He understands me more than xT did, he has training in DID and trauma. His approach is in getting to the root of the problem and.he.gets me and he trusts me. I don't make threats in email either. I was just thinking of some other possible complications that might arise. I do think email is good for many people, but outside of Ts vacation, it isn't a good choice for me. So, ultramar, I think that how the therapist sets his boundaries in relation to the client is important. If a therapist doesn't have the training in or understand the client's issues and how to handle them, it could escalate the client. Likewise, the client could escalate the therapist. There are so many factors involved.
I just asked my T if I have ever crossed his boundaries yet, and he said, no. I used to have these issues, and suspect I am not cured, but I have been respectful with my current T.