It is definitely possible I've just shut down. To top it all of, one of my brothers tried to committ suicide a couple days ago, totally unrelated to all the drama with my other siblings, but it's been three days of constant phone calls and messaging and trying to settle everyone down. I haven't even been remembering things like eating or sleeping lol. It might hit me later.

Granite, I agree with stopdog...that no matter how kids act or what they do, the lines on what is appropriate treatment or consequences and what is not don't change. I don't want you to take blame that isn't yours just because of what a teacher wrote. You do seem more calm about things, but just remember, nothing justifies abuse.

I'm glad your back, and thanks for asking about my siblings. It's helpful to say something to people who will call what I did brave not mean or hurtful or judgmental or betrayal and on and on.