I also wanted to add that I spent a ton of time thinking about and hating my ex-t for being a jerk. Your t was worse than mine I think. I understand wanting to work it out too, because partly one trusts ones t and respects them, so it's hard to reconcile that when they suddenly do obnoxious stuff. It is really hard to know when to dump somebody who does obnoxious stuff and when to keep trying. I lean toward your current t's view that your old t doesn't have it together enough to try to reconcile. But I don't know. I don't like it that your current t doesn't seem to be acknowledging your point of view about reconciling with your former t and I don't think I like his question about ocd.