Yack, I appreciate your reply. There's something I'd like to explain though--

I know one should not feel guilty for being sick or injured-- it goes much deeper than that simple understanding-- it's been ingrained in my very being (from childhood) that I was bad, a nuisance and unworthy of care when injured or sick-- it's like it became a part of the way my mind worked-- just like how you probably would get triggered by something(because of PTSD) that most people would not understand what the problem was. Unhealthy thoughts become "automatic" for those that experience abuse-- especially as a child. --- IMO.

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look at it this way...you have the chance to help people understand what it is like to have been sick, and you can relate to others who have been sick...instead of allowing other who are ill to make you anxious...

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this is something that will take some work for me.... not feeling anxious......
you have a good point-- perhaps if I look at as: I can offer them knowledge of what it's like to have a particular illness or injury.... and yea, I can also give them understanding as I relate to a common situation. I will keep these good points in mind-- thank you.

mandy