"A General Theory of Love" pg. 175

"If a patient's emotional mind would support good relationships, he or she would be out having them. Instead a therapist loosens his grip on his own world and drifts, eyes open, into whatever relationship the patient has in mind - even a connection so dark that it touches the worst in him. He has no alternative.

"When he stays outside the other's world, he cannot affect it. [...] He takes up temporary residence in another's world not just to observe but to alter, and, in the end, to overthrow.

"Through the intimacy a limbic exchange affords, therapy becomes the ultimate inside job."

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"...if therapy works, it transforms a patient's limbic brain and his emotional landscape forever.

"Thus the urgent necessity for a therapist to get his emotional house in order"