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Originally Posted by r4331
I've recently been experiencing a problem that I'm not sure what to do about. After not having any relationships or "one night stands" that involved sex for nearly 6 years, I've run into a problem that really scares me. Over the past month, I've found a girl that I'm both physically and emotionally attracted to. During the past month, we've had sex 5-6 times and I've been able to go and last throughout (including one night with multiple sessions). In the past 2 attempts at sex, I've been losing my erection right as I'm about to put on a condom. I can hold the erection during foreplay & leading up to sex, but as soon as I make the move to put on a condom, it goes away. As it continues to happen I get more and more frustrated and scared that there's a bigger issue here. From what little research I've done this is due to anxiety, which I can see being the cause considering we've had intercourse before. We're both 25, physically fit, runners & eat healthy.
Any input on how to overcome the anxiety or things to try would be greatly appreciated.
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Since you run, already, you cannot make it better for anxiety from the standpoint of physiology. You might try anxiolytic medications prior to the act - you will need a prescription for them. I have never heard of them used in this particular context, but people do report using them successfully in similar contexts, when they need to perform and are scared of failing - say, before doing a big presentation at a conference.
The main problem related to your anxiety is that you get scared, then you get more anxious, and the rest is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Since you are scared that there might be a bigger issue, you should seek advice from your GP. Also, ask the GP to prescribe Cialis - not that you should look forward to using Cialis for life, starting at age 25, no, but as an extra assurance to get over being scared. Maybe if you have a few successes with Cialis, you can then drop Cialis and do fine left to your own devices.
Also, give her orgasms with your mouth and hands - not only will it be good for her, but your successes giving her orgasms will work towards alleviating your anxiety which stems from your fear of failure.