The only thing that bothers me about his behaviour and communication with you is that he's asked you to appear naked on a webcam.

This is not necessary enough to be worth the risk. Who knows if he's recording or later uploading it?

I would search your bedrooms for hidden cameras, but maybe that's just me.

I can see his point about you getting your emotional needs met with your friends, because men generally don't have this kind of outlet with anyone but a therapist.

And sex is important to help us feel close and accepted by others, but it's that way for women too.