Hi Jennifer ~ I'm sorry this happened -- that you 2 had sex. That complicates things, and ALWAYS changes the friendship.

First of all, I don't know how old you are, but it WAS none of your familys' business whether you stayed friends or had a relationship or not. Why didn't they approve of your relationship? Because of them, your friendship was ruined and because of them, you didn't see or talk to each other for a whole year! That's ridiculous!

Secondly, when you do get back in contact, after awhile, you have sex! That shouldn't have happened -- and I know you know that. You can't get that closeness that you had by having sex. It always changes the 'friendship' and many times ruins it.

I think you ARE settling, and in fact you're letting yourself be USED. Please don't do that. It would be best if you two just parted ways and went on with your own lives. The "old" friendship is GONE. You're never going to get it back, honey.

It's time for you to look for someone who can REALLY love you as you DESERVE to be loved and cared for. Don't EVER settle, sweetie. By doing that, you're selling yourself. You WILL find someone who genuinely loves you for YOU. Please take good care of yourself and God bless. Hugs, Lee