I am currently in an Anger Management program. The first thing I have learned is to realize when I begin to have angry feelings. I am learning to look at the situation and find the real cause of my anger. If I am successful I then talk myself through the feelings and expectations I have. I try to look at it honestly and openly. I then try to talk to someone. It doesn't have to be the person I am angry with either. I just need to express my feelings and work through them. After I have gotten my emotions in check.... I try to deal with the situation in a logical way. At least I am trying to do this. I have to retrain how my mind works, so far so good.