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Old Apr 25, 2013, 10:09 AM
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Originally Posted by JayneJohnson49 View Post
"I want to apologise to the human being behind the therapist who went to work, tried his best and got an earful. I'm going to apologise when I see you. I just feel bad that maybe I made you feel bad."

TR - I apologized to my T in the next session after a similar outburst. I was very flippant to her and on the drive home realized she was a person who got up to go to work and do her best and didn't deserve my attitude. Expression of emotion yes, snotty attitude no. She was floored the next session when I opened it by saying I'm sorry AND why. She had this look of confusion and when I asked if it wasn't okay to bring it up she said that clients rarely, if ever, apologize or take ownership so she was processing the moment. Right then I realized how often T's must be verbal punching bags and I was so deeply grateful I swallowed my pride and apologized.
They are indeed verbal punching bags. My poor T is trying SO hard right now and I keep freaking out and lashing out at him. I think he is sorted enough in himself to take it, but it doesn't mean I don't want to make amends. Apologising in a healthy way without beating myself up is kind of new for me.

The thing is, he did say something kind of stupid. But I didn't have to react the way I did.
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