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Originally Posted by AnxiousKitty
My other flaw is I tend to put up rebellious walls...I guess it's that "hype" you get when you are emotionally reacting---or my social fear of "Oh no, they noticed I gave in to not being able to talk for 3 days, now Im weak"---or "that person has noticed that I changed, I cannot stand out"----which stunts my growth to become a better person  . |
I am not sure that you need to become a better person, so I do not see how catalyzing your personal growth would be the right application of your energy, but you do need to realize that you need to
like a person enough for any relationship to be worth it. You do not report liking the guy. The OP is fairly long, but you still do not mention liking him. It is not clear whether he likes you, either.
At the same time
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Originally Posted by AnxiousKitty
...he reminds me he wants a long term commitment, and he's not the kind that hides what he wants or thinks behind my back.
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So someone you do not seem to even like enough wants to be committed to you in the long run. Why do you need his commitment?
All of that seems completely irrational.