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TALK! Open UP! Do not try to burry those feelings, it can kill you!
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What happens when you don't want to open up and when you decide to keep the secret?
1.) Keeping the secrets, hiding thoughts and burring feelings alive consumes enormous amount of energy. Very often, almost whole available energy is spent to keep the secret and to hide feelings. The secret and buried feelings are slowly draining your energy and may cause serious health problems like: clinical depressions, cystic ovaries, schizophrenia, tumors of sexual organs, vaginal cancer, cervical cancer, breast cancer, prostate cancer, sarcoma, leukemia, sleeping disorders, suicidal thoughts ...
Many of those who were abused in their childhood, and were unable to talk about it, retain many problems due to this trauma:
2.) Psychological problems: Fears, panic attacks, sleeping problems, nightmares, irritability, outbursts of anger and sudden shock reactions when being touched. Little confidence, and self-respect and respect for one's own body may change. Behavior that harms the body: addiction to alcohol and other substances, excessive work or sports, depression, self-destruction and prostitution.
3.) Self-Mutilation: Self-Injury, Delicate Cutting, Self-Abuse
4.) Social problems: Have little confidence in other people. Fear of loss of control in relationships.
5.) Sexual problem: While making love problems often occur. The partner may be confused by a certain remark, touch or behavior that brings back memories of the abuse. Patients sometimes don't want to make love at all anymore or make love less. Sexual relation problems may occur, together whit pain while making love, not wanting to make love and problems in getting aroused. Problems with the orgasm and coming also occur.
6.) Physical complaints: Abdominal pain, pain while making love, menstrual pain, intestinal complaints, stomach ache, nausea, headache, back pain, painful shoulders, in short all kinds of chronic pain may occur. The pain is often inexplicable.
7.) Eating disorders like anorexia, bulimia, compulsive eating are also very common.
8.) Denial and repression: deny or repress the harmful event(s); don't want to talk about or avoid certain situations.
9.) Re-experiencing: experience the event(s) again; unintentionally they are confronted with memories of the abuse, for example through nightmares, sudden memories or unexplainable physical problems.
10.) Over irritation: are easily affected, hot-tempered, jumpy, excessively alert and don't fall asleep easily.
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TALK! Open UP! Do not try to burry those feelings, it will kill you!
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