I am so sorry to hear this. I wish I thought it rare, I agree with dark heart. Forget about the money, let the bills pile up on this one if you need to.
Get help, get out if you must, and if you are in an ER make the pdoc talk to another doc there & at the hospital to get you where you need to be----and remember, there are more pdocs in the world--- once you get to a safe place don't "forget" or rationalize your husband's behavior; and don't let him do it either...
If you have a supportive friend/relative now would be a time to reach out, and tell them the truth about what is going on (I don't know if you tend to downplay the situation but something in the way your present it makes me think you might...) This is not your fault.