((((Baker)))) It sounds like our mothers were twins separated at birth. I am working really hard to let things go, but I also know how much it hurts. And the damage that it does to us. Just one day at a time, Sweetie. Even though our mothers behaviors are hideous and unthinkable, and our fathers, diappointing by the enabling and burying their heads in the sand, we have to go on.

It doesnt have to mean it isnt hard and doesnt hurt (to our core), or even that we dont care, but we have to focus on our own lives and well being.

You are so lucky, too, to have your husband by your side.

Please take good care. You have done nothing wrong. You have a good, caring, loving spirit.

Bunches of hugs to you, Rose