There are short-run and long-run issues here.

Short run:

Think about the consequences of possible actions.

What will happen if you go to her?

versus

What will happen if you wait?

Think about consequences in terms of your emotions, your relationships, your health, your baby, your family.

Take this seriously. Make a written list or pros and cons.

Don't be swayed by emotional claims that "she should come to you" or "you should go to her". Think it through with patience and care.

Long run:

I agree with the others that more separation is needed. Did you really see your parents four times or more per week? Is that amount of contact what you want...or is it what your mother demands?

If you decide to limit contact in the longer term, and I hope you do, you will need to be prepared for her to use those emotional techniques (emotional blackmail) to coerce you into doing what she wants. These techniques have worked for her in the past: like the time she did not talk to you for three weeks and you still called her every.single.day.

Be prepared to ignore/resist these emotional techniques. Be strong. The more you give in to her emotional blackmail, the more she will keep it up and the unhappier you and your family will be.

Think to yourself: I love you Mom but I am a grown woman, I have my own family and responsibilities, and I am not giving in to emotional blackmail.

Here is an article about emotional blackmail: Emotional blackmail - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia