I sure hope this is not the case of... She says she wants out of M because she feels insecure with changes you have been making hoping that you will say no no I don't want that .... but instead you say well she must really want out so I will let her go cause thats what she wants...

Isn't all of these years together worth some MC? most times people need a referee and interpreter for everyone to get the feelings and thoughts out on the table the way everyone can understand them.