I am reading a book recommended by someone on this site. (Sorry, I forget who it was at the moment.)
It relates to what I stated above - wasted potential due to lack of encouragement - but it seems to focus on how to self-nurture, to continue on from what was broken. Well, it's not going to change the health issues I was given, but maybe it will help with this bugaboo of no purpose or satisfaction. Here's the book as downloadable pdfs:
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