Wow, she is moving so fast (Lola)
This must be so hard for you I am so sorry that this is happening. I am wondering if she is wanting you to fight for her or something. After so many years it just feels so rushed on her part. Given that she never liked to be alone, I imagine she is struggling with your new job. Maybe she feels that you have left her in a way. Whatever is going on in her head, I care about you and want you to be happy.