I created a separate thread for this since the topic is a bit different than the other one...

My girlfriend and I were talking last night about trust. Because of her background she has a very hard time trusting people, so me earning that trust back will be an uphill battle. However, when we got to my ability to trust we discovered something pretty interesting... I also don't trust people. I'm always expecting that those that I'm closest to are going to do something to hurt me, lie to me, leave me hanging in important situations, etc.

It's interesting that I will outwardly portray a rather positive attitude, but internally I have a negative outlook because it seems the only one I can really rely on is myself. Best friends have betrayed me, ex-girlfriends and the ex-wife have cheated on me... there's way too much I could get into on the matter, but I feel totally wronged by it all since I'm usually a pretty thoughtful and giving person.

I guess the question is... how do I work on learning to trust those that I'm close to since a lack of trust hurts my most important relationships?