I was molested on several occasions, by several perpetrators, between the ages of 5 and 15, and then raped twice as an adult. It didn't result in the same physical damage you suffered, because until I was 15, none of it involved penetration. The adult neighbor who molested me at age 5 tried, but I was too small for him to succeed. With an uncle at age 6, a step-father at age 12, and both grandfathers once apiece the year I was 14, it was inappropriate touching. No damage to the body. Lifetime scar on the soul. The rape at age 15 tore my hymen, but then honestly, the pelvic exam afterward in the ER, with the speculum, did even more damage physically and was more painful.

I said all that to say this: In the ER, I asked the doctor if I was still a virgin, and he told me I was. The fact that my hymen had been torn did not mean I was no longer a virgin. A hymen can be torn riding a bicycle or a horse, if something happens. I had not had sex of my own free will, and virginity doesn't end until it is given up voluntarily. Even if one of the earlier situations had resulted in penetration, it would not have ended my virginity, because I was not old enough, mature enough, or informed enough to give consent.

A man who loves you will be sympathetic rather than judgmental, and when the time comes, he will be gentle knowing you have been traumatized. If the physical damage you have suffered causes you pain now, I think I would consider repair, not to restore virginity you haven't actually lost, but to minimize pain.