He is lucky to have your help Rose

I use to do home health care... The biggest issues they are looking for are

(non RN issues)

Does he need assistance Bathing?
Is he able to wash and dry his own clothing?
Is he able to fix meals for himself?
Can he keep his residence clean and clutter free (decreases fall risk)

He needs to answer these with a NO !

Do he have safety bars in the bathroom? ( decreases fall risk)

RN issues

Is he capable to taking any medication correctly and on time?
In regards to a fall .. A RN can contact his Doctor and request he
be evaluated by a Physical Therapist. they will also see if a scooter is needed
Do he have any wounds?
Is he diabetic?

These are just a few "common" questions that will help determine what he qualifies
for ..

Men really don't like to amit they are having trouble .. but .. If he doesnt he would get any help that he DESERVES!

Hope this helps and dealing with the VA .. Ugh ! You just have to keep calling and calling ... The VA "assumes" people will not push for what they deserve and just go pay for it themselves ... So be pushy .

Good luck